Have you ever started something new, whether a goal, a career shift, or personal growth, only to be met with subtle (or not-so-subtle) comments from people around you? Doubt, guilt, and comparison can creep in, making you second-guess yourself. This episode is here to remind you: you don’t need permission to go after what you want.
Today, we’re talking about the comments that stop you in your tracks and how to move forward anyway. I’ll walk you through five common types of comments people make (often unintentionally) that plant seeds of doubt and keep you stuck.
What We Cover:
1. The Subtle Dream-Killer Comments:
- “Are you sure that’s a good idea?”
- “That sounds like a lot of work… Do you really have time for that?”
- “Most people don’t actually follow through with that kind of thing.”
- “I mean, if it was that easy, wouldn’t everyone be doing it?”
- “I just don’t want to see you get disappointed.”
- “You’re always starting something new… what makes this different?”
These comments aren’t outright mean, but they cast doubt. They make you pause, hesitate, and second-guess yourself.
2. The “I Know You Better Than You Know Yourself” Comments:
- “That’s just not really you though, is it?”
- “You’ve never been good at sticking with things.”
- “I mean, you always get excited about new things, but let’s be real…”
- “I just don’t think this is your thing.”
- “You’re not really the type of person who does that.”
And suddenly, you start wondering… are they right? Do they see something in me that I don’t?
3. The “I’m Just Being Realistic” Comments:
- “Not trying to be negative, but…”
- “You need to be realistic. Life doesn’t work like that.”
- “You should probably focus on something safer.”
- “You don’t want to embarrass yourself, do you?”
- “Most people who try that fail.”
- “I just don’t want to see you waste your time.”
These sound like “helpful” advice, but really, they’re just dressed-up fear. Often, it’s their own limiting beliefs they’re trying to project onto you.
4. The Subtle Comparison Comments:
- “Oh, my friend tried that and it didn’t work for her.”
- “I know someone who did that, but they had way more experience.”
- “That’s great, but don’t expect too much.”
- “It’s just really competitive—you’d have to be really good.”
Comparison plants the seed that maybe you’re not “good enough” or “experienced enough.” But what they don’t realise? You don’t need permission from someone else’s experience to go for what you want!
5. The Guilt-Tripping Comments:
- “You’ve been spending a lot of time on that… don’t forget about us.”
- “You’re so busy these days—remember when you used to have time for [insert guilt here]?”
- “Must be nice to be able to do that, some of us don’t have the luxury.”
- “I wish I had time to do things like that.”
- “You’re lucky you get to focus on yourself.”
This one hits hard because it taps into your guilt. And before you know it, you’re putting yourself last again to make sure everyone else is happy.
Key Takeaways:
- People’s comments come from their own fears, not your reality.
- You get to decide how you react and whether you stop or keep going.
- The more you grow, the more comments you’ll receive—so be prepared!
Actionable Insight:
Write down one or two comments that have made you doubt yourself in the past. How did they impact your actions? How would you like to respond differently next time?
An Invitation:
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28 Feb 2025
