Changing others is never the solution. I don't want to say it, but that is always out of your control. What you can control is yourself. And I highly recommend spending more time doing that instead of "fixing" others.
Ever find yourself thinking, “If they’d just do this, their life would be so much better…”
We’ve all done it, whether it’s about our partner, our kids, our friends, or a stranger on Instagram. But here’s the truth: trying to fix someone else’s life (even with good intentions) creates unnecessary drama, drains your energy, and distracts you from your own growth.
In this episode, we’re unpacking how to shift from fixing others to focusing on yourself and how this one change can create more calm, more clarity, and a whole lot less drama.
What We Cover:
Why offering advice without consent rarely lands well
The sneaky ways “helping” turns into controlling
How trying to change others is often a distraction from your own life
Why awareness is always the first step to change
How to let go of gossip, judgment, and unsolicited “fixing” energy
Key Takeaways:
✅ You’re not bad for wanting to help, but unsolicited advice rarely helps
✅ Trying to control others distracts you from your own growth
✅ Peace comes from focusing on what’s in your control…you
✅ More Self-responsibility, less judgment, every time
Actionable Insight:
The next time you feel the urge to “help” someone who hasn’t asked for it, pause.
Ask: Am I offering advice, or am I trying to fix?
Then turn the mirror around: What can I learn from this moment about myself?
A Warm Invitation:
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Book Mentions:
A gift Collection of Friday Coach Like by Brooke Castillo- Page 12
The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
16 May 2025
