Episode 85
This is a valuable replay of Episode 4- Have Your Own Back. Everything Else Is A Bonus External validation can feel good in the moment, but when we rely on it for our self-worth, it creates frustration, resentment, and emotional suffering. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Validation Detox—a process to stop seeking external approval and start building the self-love and empowerment you deserve. What We Cover: 1.What is Validation and Why Do We Seek It? -The psychology of validation and how it connects to our need for belonging and esteem. -Why we often give away the responsibility for our worth to others. 2.How External Validation Shows Up in Your Life: -Common behaviours like overachieving for praise, difficulty setting boundaries, or constant comparison to others. -Everyday examples, from posting on social media to seeking compliments for reassurance. 3.The Validation Detox Process: Step 1: Awareness—identify where you’re seeking external validation in your life. Step 2: Interrupt—pause the habitual behaviors that seek validation from others. Step 3: Validate Yourself—practice self-affirmation with thoughts that empower you. 4.The Byproduct of Self-Validation: -How validating yourself leads to self-love, empowerment, and unshakable confidence. -Why external validation becomes a bonus instead of a necessity. Key Takeaways: -Your worth isn’t determined by others—it’s a decision you make about yourself. -Interrupting validation-seeking behaviours is hard, but it’s the first step to empowerment. -Self-validation is the foundation of a life filled with love and less drama. Actionable Insight: -Write a list of the ways you seek external validation, then practice pausing those behaviours. Replace the need for approval with the affirmation: “I’ve got my own back, everything else is a bonus.” A Warm Invitation: Ready to start your Validation Detox? Download the free Validation Detox Workbook now and take the first step toward self-love and empowerment. Find the link in the bio to get it delivered straight to your inbox.