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This is a valuable replay of Episode 4- Have Your Own Back. Everything Else Is A Bonus External validation can feel good in the moment, but when we rely on it for our self-worth, it creates frustration, resentment, and emotional suffering. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Validation Detox—a process to stop seeking external approval and start building the self-love and empowerment you deserve. What We Cover: 1.What is Validation and Why Do We Seek It? -The psychology of validation and how it connects to our need for belonging and esteem. -Why we often give away the responsibility for our worth to others. 2.How External Validation Shows Up in Your Life: -Common behaviours like overachieving for praise, difficulty setting boundaries, or constant comparison to others. -Everyday examples, from posting on social media to seeking compliments for reassurance. 3.The Validation Detox Process: Step 1: Awareness—identify where you’re seeking external validation in your life. Step 2: Interrupt—pause the habitual behaviors that seek validation from others. Step 3: Validate Yourself—practice self-affirmation with thoughts that empower you. 4.The Byproduct of Self-Validation: -How validating yourself leads to self-love, empowerment, and unshakable confidence. -Why external validation becomes a bonus instead of a necessity. Key Takeaways: -Your worth isn’t determined by others—it’s a decision you make about yourself. -Interrupting validation-seeking behaviours is hard, but it’s the first step to empowerment. -Self-validation is the foundation of a life filled with love and less drama. Actionable Insight: -Write a list of the ways you seek external validation, then practice pausing those behaviours. Replace the need for approval with the affirmation: “I’ve got my own back, everything else is a bonus.” A Warm Invitation: Ready to start your Validation Detox? Download the free Validation Detox Workbook now and take the first step toward self-love and empowerment. Find the link in the bio to get it delivered straight to your inbox.

2025 is here, and with it comes the buzz of New Year’s resolutions and big plans. But before you dive headfirst into changing everything all at once, this episode is a reality check. I’m breaking down why trying to do too much too soon is a trap—and how focusing on one small change at a time is the real key to making this your best year yet. What We Cover: 1. The New Year Trap: • Why changing everything all at once leads to burnout and frustration. • The Day 19 effect: why most people quit their resolutions before January is over. 2. The Power of Small Goals: • Building tolerance for change one step at a time. • Why focusing on systems, not just goals, leads to long-term success. 3. Making 2025 Your Best Year: • How to identify the one thing to focus on first. • The magic of small wins and how they create lasting momentum. 4. How The Finishers Club Can Help: • The proven system for building confidence and achieving your goals without overwhelm. • Why committing to just one small goal every four weeks can transform your life. Key Takeaways: • True transformation comes from focusing on one thing at a time, not trying to do it all. • Systems, not just goals, are the secret to sustainable change. • Building confidence through small wins is the foundation for long-term success. Actionable Insight: Choose ONE goal to focus on for January. Commit to it, build your system, and show up consistently. By the end of the month, you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish. A Warm Invitation: If you’re ready to make 2025 your best year yet, join The Finishers Club. Learn the step-by-step process to achieve your goals without overwhelm and build confidence in your ability to follow through. Live coaching starts January 6th—let’s make this year different. Find the link in my bio

In this final episode of the year, I share a personal story that inspired me to identify four distinct approaches people take toward their goals and dreams. From jumping all in to hesitating on the edge, we all have a unique style—and understanding yours can help you grow. What We Cover: 1. The Four Types of Goal Achievers: • The Pretender: Avoids dreaming altogether. • The Overthinker: Considers the leap but holds back. • The Small Steps Strategist: Takes incremental steps but risks getting stuck. • The Big Jumper: Goes all in but may lack direction. 2. The “Medicine” for Each Type: • How to address your unique challenges and move closer to your dreams. • The importance of aligning your goals with your values and energy. 3. The Root of All Fear: • Why fear of emotions is the only thing holding you back. • How identifying your resistance to emotions like embarrassment, visibility, or failure can unlock your next steps. 4. How The Finishers Club Can Help: • Tools, support, and coaching to build your self-trust and achieve aligned goals. • Why small, intentional steps lead to big results. Key Takeaways: • There’s no “right” way to pursue goals; it’s about finding what works for you. • Understanding your resistance to emotions helps you overcome blocks. • Goals aren’t just about achieving—they’re about aligning with who you truly want to be. Actionable Insight: Reflect on which of the four types resonates with you and ask: • Who do I want to become? • What steps can I take to honor my journey? A Warm Invitation: As we wrap up the year, take time to reflect on your goals and dreams. The Finishers Club is open for enrollment, and live coaching starts January 6th. Let’s make 2025 your year of follow-through, self-trust, and aligned success.